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Tuesday, August 4, 2020

A Girl’s Perspective of Fingering

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When a lot of girls begin to grow up and learn about sex fingering is not one of the things that they have in mind. As a matter of fact, fingering does not even sound right to the ears when you hear it.

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The first time I heard about fingering I was slightly irritated and I did the best I could to keep the thought of it from my head up till when I got into college.

Because I was one of the girls who taught fingering was a dirty thing I never pictured myself trying out to be someone who would actually crave it in a couple of years.

At a point, I felt if I tried it using my own fingers I would have a change of mind, but it only left me feeling bored and upset because of the cramps I had in my hand.

The most pleasurable thing I had discovered that the time was the pleasures that come with the shower head if you know what I mean, but somewhere along the line I knew that I would have to experience fingering. And from then, I will decide if I would love to continue or if I would stick to the idea that it is a terrible thing.

As I got older, I began to read books and watch videos that showed me where precisely to direct my wondering fingers (and as you already know we’re talking about the clitoris). But what I found most intriguing was that some men who were the best kissers were terrible at using their fingers.

First there a those men who would roll grow long nails and not even remember to keep them clean, and then there are those who are a chronic nail biter and would mostly end up making you bleed.

One thing I noticed with men when it comes to fingering is that they’re usually very excited to put their hand into a ladies pant and check if they had accomplished their mission which would be to get her wet.

Once they can feel any slight form of wetness or slickness, they were good to go. Whenever I had a man stick one finger into my honeypot, it’s made me feel like he was checking a chicken for doneness (you know the way we usually do it with a meat thermometer).

Nevertheless, one finger is well-tolerated a lot of times, but men who would go as far as sticking two fingers or even three fingers into a vagina and still go ahead to engage in violent thrusting just make me feel they are probably trying to practice what they imagine doing with your penis.

This category of men are people I like to consider as selfish and self-centred because it appears they are more concerned about how fast they can go with their hands than on how I respond to what they are doing to my pleasure zone.

With all these bad experiences, I usually found myself being very upset whenever a man tried to go down there with his fingers. Most of the time I will just tell him to go right ahead to sticking his penis into the honey pot instead of playing with his fingers in my private zone.

That’s enough about a bad experience. I would also like you to know that I have had my fair share of extreme pleasure when it comes to fingering, and that is the part of the story you should be eager to read about.

There is always that one guy that comes along and immediately you feel a strong connection with him. Not only because he has a likeable personality, but because once you see him your entire body makes you feel like going naked and jumping on him is a very good idea.

I met a guy exactly like this. And even though the circumstances of our meeting was not one that was supposed to lead to the bed, well someway somehow it did lead to the bed, and it is one sexual experience that I do not regret.

The first night we spent together I was amazed at how much attention he gave me and how he was able to focus on my body like it was a high paying job.

Everything he did with his fingers was highly exploratory. But as much as I was enjoying it, I still found it difficult to relax enough because somewhere deep down, the fear of getting injured by his fingers was still dancing around my head.

Even though he had only spent 10 minutes touching my body, it felt like I had been there for days and I didn’t want him to stop. But because of how embarrassed I was feeling inside to be enjoying something I hated so much, I had to beg him to stop.

I gave him the excuse that it was impossible for me to come from fingering so he shouldn’t put much pressure on himself. We take our time to relax and have a long talk where he explained to me how he had an interest in martial arts and also knew all about the Kamasutra which I found very interesting.

He was quick to point out that failure was one thing that he hated so much and for that reason he understood that it would take patience to get me to that spot away I want to get, but he was willing to be patient enough and get me there if I would let him.

By the next morning, I was both mentally and physically ready to try what he had to offer and trust me; I enjoyed it more than I have ever enjoyed any other form of sex.

I was lucky enough to enjoy this very rare kind of sexual pleasure for as long as five weeks before I realised that the dude was some kind of a jerk. But one thing I will not trade for anything else are the lessons that I learnt from the short experience.

What I learnt and what every man should know?

  1. From my experience I gathered that if you must give a woman the kind of pleasure that she deserves using your fingers, then you must make sure that they are cut short and neatly filed.
  2. Always make sure that you have a bottle of hand sanitizers with you because there are times you may be tempted to get into action and you will not want to lose a minute by running into the bathroom to have your hands washed.
  3. Being gentle is key if you want to give a very good handjob putting so much force and pressure into a vagina would only live the receiver in pain and prevent her from coming back.
  4. Focus on rubbing your fingers on the clitoris but also do not neglect other parts of the vagina as the entire vagina work together to offer maximum pleasure.
  5. Avoid engaging in fast-paced and rigorous back-and-forth movement in and out of the vagina.
  6. No matter how tempting it gets avoid putting more than two fingers into a woman’s vagina.

I hope that you find this piece of writing very interesting and educative and I am also hoping to learn new things from my readers so if you have a few other tips you would like to share, or you would want to share your experience with us please feel free to use the comment section below.

Emmanuella Ekokotu
Ekokotu Emmanuella is a sociologist and Anthropologist, writer, and fashion model who lives in Benin city, Edo state,Nigeria.

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